Tamasha

Bullying is a serious problem. Specially for the children who become victim of bullying in schools, neighborhoods or communities. A few days ago my neice Minahil was bullied by some children in the neighbourhood. Her mother called me for advice. I don’t have any children, I am not even married. But I have an interest in parenting and children.

The incident that happened to Minahil, reminded me of some incidents from my own childhood. I was bullied by some children at school and in our neighborhood. It left a long lasting impression on my personality. A part from stress, as an adult I had difficulty to interact with other people. Fear of being ridiculed, bullied or ignored ruled my life. I realized the problem and got over it. But the impact was so long lasting that it still hurts when I think about it.

Parents should take bullying very seriously. Talking to your child helps but you can do a lot more than that. Teach your children how to protect themselves from bullies. Teach them how to diffuse the situation and help them by action. Looking around I found some very helpful web pages.

• Wikipedia - Bullying
• Bullying Prevention
• Stop Bullying Now US Department of Health and Human Services offers flash movies, games, and information about bullying and how to prevent it.
• Stop Bullying Now! Presenting practical research-based strategies to reduce bullying in schools.

Parents need to learn what they should do to help their children whether they are the victims or the bullies, they need help. It is also important that parents teach their children that they should help their friends and other children if they see someone bullying them or trying to hurt them. It is important that we teach our children about their right to be safe and how to seek and provide help to others.

Bullying is a serious problem. Specially for the children who become victim of bullying in schools, neighborhoods or communities. A few days ago my neice Minahil was bullied by some children in the neighbourhood. Her mother called me for advice. I don’t have any children, I am not even married. But I have an interest […]

My neice Minahil is having trouble with her new class. She is in kindergarten’s first year. She loved her school and her teacher Miss Saima back in pre-nursery. After the three month summer break, she has now started crying while going to school. Minahil’s parents are really upset about this new situation. Minahil wasn’t like that last year, so whats changed now? They understand that she is having difficulty getting herself adjust in the new room, new year and new teacher.

My sister Anney (Minahil’s mother) talked to Minahil’s teacher who told her that it is a very common problem among children of this age. She assured Anney that there is nothing to worry about, Minahil’s performance in class is more than satisfactory and she stops crying as soon as she enters the classroom. Anney and Ejaz think that may be there is something about this new teacher, may be she is too hard on their daughter, they are also thinking that there could be some other child or adult behind Minahil’s behavior change.

I looked on the web and it seems like this is a very common problem all over the world. This is a difficult time for the children, but parents and teachers can do a lot to make them feel better. Kidsource online has some great tips regarding this issue. Preschool Education also offers similar tips.

The key to get over this phase quickly is not to let the children think that they can win over the parents. Their should be no sick leaves, no school skipping, this is a tough decision for parents. But being a good responsible parent you will have to do it.

My neice Minahil is having trouble with her new class. She is in kindergarten’s first year. She loved her school and her teacher Miss Saima back in pre-nursery. After the three month summer break, she has now started crying while going to school. Minahil’s parents are really upset about this new situation. Minahil wasn’t like […]